Sure, I say. . . What’s up?
He goes onto telling me that her confidence is so low and she doesn’t know what to do as she is in an abusive relationship with her husband. I asked him if there was physical abuse to which he replied no. He said it was all mental – telling her she is stupid and she is not worth anything (not the exact wording he used) and things of that nature. I understand that sometimes the deepest cutting blows are not the physical – they are often the psychological. The mental beat down those words can do often leave lasting bruises and scars long after the physical injuries heal. I was very concerned about her. She was concerned because she thought it might get eventually get physical. This is always a concern in these types of situations however I thought she needed strengthing in the psychological and emotional areas of training.
I had a seminar coming up and I told he needs to have her there. When I met her at the workshop which her brother also participated in, I could tell her spirit was broken and she needed that area to be addressed. In that workshop we worked on the psychological, physical behavioral and emotional aspects of personal protection. In less than 3 hours, I could see the transformation take place. Her confidence was up and her desire to intelligently handle confrontations appeared to have increased. At the end of the day I told her I wanted to check in on her from time to time and if she needed me to call, regardless of the day or time. So, after about a month I sent her an email to see how she was doing. Although she the workshop she participated in was an introduction to personal protection this is what she said:
I told her I was glad that what she learned helped her avoid any harm situations and to please keep in touch.
Additionally, her fear was reduced to the point that she eventually moved out and is living a much more happy and prosperous life. Not a Shred or a blow exchanged. She side stepped the physical by using other tools and realized her strength as a human being was not rooted in Shredding her husband.
Hey, can you see me smiling through the Internet?